On my blog, a lot of people have been crying out for help, and I do sincerely appreciate their honesty.  So here is a little honesty back.  Some people have a sincere problem and just need to go see a counselor.  Having said that, others need to stop and look at the last 3 or 4 relationships they've been in and take a good look in the mirror.  If your last 3 or 4 relationships have been toxic or highly unhealthy, then something in you is attracting this.  As I said in the audio I just recorded singles (ORDER HERE), you do not attract what you want, you attract what you are.  So, by all means, some singles need to break up with whoever they are with, regardless of how wonderful they may seem, and just work on yourself for a while.  Here is a list of books I recommend to start with:

 Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, 9 Things You Simply Must Do, also by Dr. Henry Cloud.