This may not be the place to make this comment, but I would like to hear some opinions. I am a single grandmother raising my two grandchildren. Recently there has been many messages about fathers and the need for them to step up and "be a father" to their children. This message is repeated in the schools as well. Has anyone presenting this topic thought about the children who are listening? There are many children who for whatever reason do not have a father or mother involved in their lives. A grade school principal during an award ceremony praised the fathers in attendance then went on in great detail stating the children without fathers had a higher chance to become juvenile deliquents further 90% of all prisoners do not have a father in their lives. My grandson ask if that was going to happen to him. How would you answer that question. Some recognition to the other side - grandparents - is needed who are trying to do the best in raising their grandchildren. We do not need to have another barrier tossed our way. The children also need to know any support person is better than an absent parent.

dear bill an jessica your message on valentines was one that spoke to me deeply . i recently broke up with someone whom i was an still am deeply in love with she gave me a comfrot iv never known before. I can tell that it was because of me that we are no longer together i broke her trust in me an caused her pain . An as much as i apoligized it was not enough ,sorry can never get back trust.She loved me very much but i believe as she beleives that with out trust ther can be no relationship. An because this happened i also experienced a pain i never knew . She is a very smart an beautifull women she would always suggest i go to b.a.f but i allowed fear an my weak faith to stop me . it was during this pain that her words spoke to me an so i went to your church i started at the begining of your "Sex in the City" theme . I can tell you now that my life has changed . My faith in GOD is stronger then it has ever been in my life i thank God each day for bringing her into my life cause if not for her i would not found my faith . I very much wanted to be with her still find some way to wok it out then on valentines day jessica read something from her journal from college " God if we are not to be with each other then break us up" it was at that point a comefrot came over me . I relized that everything happens on Gods plan not my own if i am not ment to be with her ever or at this time then it is God's will . my heart will always keep the time i had with her in a very special place . An if GOD should rekindel that love then it is God's will an God's plan if not then i will be able to go on with God's love an her memory in my heart. I thank you so very much your messages they have heled me so very much God bless you pastor Bill an Jessica an your entire family.

I'm totally bummed out your not on daystar anymore. It's the only station I could get you on. Hopefully I can find you somewhere else. My wife and I really enjoy watching you. And watching the lord work thru you

I have been married for 16 years and my husband has been unfaithful to me a couple of times. He has seperated from me and then begged me back. He tells me that he isn't in love with me anymore and hasn't been for several years. This time I put everything into GOD's hands because I am so tired of being hurt by him. I have been praying for him everyday. My husband has many problems but I can't get him to communicate with me about anything. I ask him questions and he really doesn't answer me. How can I get him to open up to me?? I have tried everything. Another issue is he is so caught up in his job that he seems to always work on special days. Like this Valentines he volunteered to work the evening shift so once again I will celebrate another special day alone. Why can't he see that I am needing his love too. I know that GOD has a plan for me but when will I know because I keep letting him back into my heart and then I get it broken again.

I have been attending Bay Area Fellowship for approximately 4 years. It was an absolute blessing to finally find a church and a Pastor that made sense to me. That feeds me. That understands me. I believe every Word in the Bible. If it's written in the Bible, I believe it. I married my husband in 2005. When we married, we were BOTH lost. Shortly after we married I was introduced to BAF. I began to learn about the Word and I decided to follow God, but not completely. I had one foot in the world and one foot in the church. I did not have a relationship with God. Nevertheless, when my husband and I married he'd already cheated on me before our marriage. After less than 3 years he left me at least 5 times and cheated on me countless times. I wasn't innocent myself. I did not submit to my husband because he never respected me and cheated on me. I finally decided to divorce him when I found out one of his many mistresses was pregnant. He denied the child being his and to this day I still do not know if it's his or not. I never had peace during the divorce proceedings. It was one of the worst times of my life. I had constant emotional conflict and I was devestated, to say the least. After the divorce I was convicted for divorcing him, giving up on God, giving up on my marriage and my husband. Even though the Bible CLEARLY states that adultery breaks the covenant and divorce is allowed, I did not have any peace. I was worse then than while we were still married. I had days and nights of misery, crying, pain, and many other terrible emotions, that were hightened when we divorced. This devestating event finally brought me close to God. I FINALLY got it. I finally understood scripture in the Bible I did not understand before. I finally understood what it meant to submit to my husband and how a husband should love his wife, as Christ loved the church. I cried on the floor of my apartment like a child. I decided to stand for my marriage, even though it was "dead" by legal means. I prayed and prayed and prayed and fasted for my husband to turn himself over to God and to reconcile our marriage, if it was God's will. After 8 months of divorce I forgave eveything he'd done, we reconciled and were re-married by Pastor Ed in 2008. After less than 6 months of re-marriage, he left again and is committing adultery again. I literally caught my husband at his mistress' trailer. I've listened to countless Christians, Pastor Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer, Pat Robinson, Pastor Jenetzen Franklin, Stormie O'Martin, Pastor Dr. Charles Stanley, Bob and Charlyene Steinkemp, Pastor Louie Giglio, Pastor T.D. Jakes and so many others. I've prayed, fasted and prayed and fasted and asked God countless times, again, what He wants for me to do. I've read countless books and watched countless DVD's on anything Christian I can get my hands on and on marriage, wives, realtionships and adultery. I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT GOD WANTS FOR ME TO DO. I don't want to follow my emotions anymore. I want to do what God wants for me to do. I know I have the OPTION to divorce my husband. I understand that. BUT, SHOULD I? OR, SHOULD I STAND FOR MY MARRIAGE AND WAIT FOR GOD'S NEXT MIRACLE? The Bible clearly says several times that "WITH GOD, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE" (Matthew 19:26). I understand that most of us have been are currently are Prodigals so I have no right to judge my husband or his mistress'. I don't want to give up on God because I know that He can do what man cannot. I also don't want to give up on my husband because my husband is clearly a Prodigal son. I don't want to give up on my marriage, but should I? What is the Biblical right thing to do? So, Pastor Bil, please talk to us straight and clearly about what us victims of adutlery should do when we want to follow God's Word and not our own flesh.

What to do when you feel like you have given your all to a friendship or relationship. Is it selfish to want something in return?? I'm there every second he needs a friend for help and support. But feeling like I'm not getting the same in return. Is he worth the time?? Should I continue to be there for someone that is not there for me?

My husband and I just recently moved back into the area after retiring from the millitary after 20 years of service...We have been married for 12 and 1/2 years. My husband went 6 months without finding a job and after a month of seeking the Lord he lead us to Bay Area and he recieved a job that, I know was given to him by God. Our relationship has been a bumpy one, but nothing to consider divorce or seperation, until now. He was recently given an opportunity for another job in another state. My family lives here and I am torn...I do not want to leave, because I know in my heart this is were God wants us. Why would an opportunity, if from God, cause such conflict. My husband has a few issues at work, that are really pushing him to leave Corpus and take this other job, and I am refusing to go. There is no COMPROMISE in this situation and I do not know what to do. Should I eat my pride and just pack up and go even though, I feel it in my heart it is not the right decision and it is being done out of haste? or do I just let him leave the children and I behind, further putting our marriage in jeapordy..Because, of this situation it has brought up other issues within our marriage, and everything seems so one sided..I am wrong and he is ALWAYS right..he has become resentful and feels as though I am holding him back. I am 30 yrs old and I am very close to my parents who live here, and I believe that it is important for my children to have a relationship with them. He on the otherhand, feels the only family my children need are us. So my question is this....how can I make this work without it ending in divorce/seperation?! What does the bible say about compromise and doing things in haste? How do I know if this is the Lord speaking and not just my husband trying to get his way?

I would like to hear your take on when you KNOW you've met THE ONE! I'm single and have had a couple of serious relationships that could have become a life long thing....but I feel like I'm always questioning whether or not there's more out there, and if God has someone else in mind for me. Is it true that when you meet the right person, you 'just know'?

Is there a case when you would ever think DIVORCE was the answer? I think many times we get married for reasons other then love, in my case it was to make my parents happy & security. This was the route they chose, at the time I was not sure what I was doing or what I wanted out of life. So I went along with what everyone else seemed to think was so great. My husband & I have been married 10yrs now, he is satisfied with the situation However Im barely going through the motions. We have tried throughout our marriage to have a baby, but that has not happened for us. Just unhappy and not sure if staying is the best thing for me. Still strugling with God's will for me?

We moved to Corpus Christi just 3 years ago from Houston. We have been married 14 years in April and have a 9 yr old daughter. We have watched BAF on TV and recently started coming to BAF. We would love to know more about how you and Jessica met and the challenges you have faced in your years of marriage. How did you face those challenges to move forward? Do you feel like those challenges made you stronger as a couple? We have spent time reflecting on where we came from and where we are now! To look back, it is a miracle that we survived. We suffered so many challenges from money to loss of my parents and an adoption of a child that 11 months later was kidnapped from Daycare and we never got him back. We stood strong but it was like swimming through mud...the only exception was we swam in the mud together and really relied on each other to get to the next day. Knowing that marriage takes time to build and adding one brick each day, we are just curious, how did you both get to where you are today (Spiritually, emotionally, family growth and relationship)?

My husband and I have been married for more than 10years. The first 6 were wonderful. And then due to circumtances my husband became very distant. And it seemed that no matter what I tried, talking, praying he never wanted to work on us. I spoke with God and felt he was leading me to stay and give him more time. Now for the last few years I have felt neglected and alone even though married. If it weren't for my belief in God I would have taken the children and tried to start over. I'm not saying I'm perfect. But I've tried so many things and different ways to bring us closer. I asked my spouse to take your Sex in the City series in case it might bring us together. But I find myself full of resentment at all that I feel he's put me through, the neglect and constant lonliness, choosing friends and co-workers over me and the children. And I do not know what to do now. Your words have been so comforting. Thank you.

Pastor Bil, I would like to hear about social networking and what are some of the suggestions and best practices when utilizing those services. Thanks

I have to say I left today's teaching with more questions than answers. I would love to hear additional teaching on Boldness with Humility. You spoke on the fruit of both characteristics today in relationships and in life and I know that they are compatabile characteristics through Christ. However, I would be interested in knowing more about the practicality of being bold with humility, as these two characteristics are not compatible according to the world. I know, not a very romantic Valentine's Day questions, but, it is what it is!

When we were both mid-lifing and empty-nesting, our 25-year marriage almost bit the dust. Time and life took its toll, and suddenly we started seeking "something more," only to jeopardize everything worthy we had invested in up to that point. Thankfully, We survived it by getting counseling, admitting our failures, having the non-judgemental support of our adult children (all Christians), and the faith on which we placed our marriage and family in the early years. So many of our friends in Christ face this marital challenge, and sadly get divorced. What works for us now is to live in more of a "dating" mentality when all you want to do is bless, impress, romance, encourage, inspire, support, defend, protect, and delight one another. Every marriage has its trials and temptations, but they can be overcome with faith, knowledge, and preparation before the storm hits.